I find myself and probably a lot of other men suffer from sex scarcity, Im 31 and just can't get laid or find love, it's something I find difficult and have low self esteem. I feel affraid to approach woman and feel nervous around ones I fancy and I can't pull to save my life! Have men been programmed by the media to feel this way, so they can sell us porn and sex by the mountain load, the Internet is full of it and is a big industry, have they made men and society this way so they can profit from it, is this the evils of capitalism when I wonna get away from that and just have the real thing, would this be different under a resource based economy, would this create an abundance of real sex so we wouldNt need porn! What you reckon? Cb
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I dont think shyness in approaching the opposite sex is felt only on the male side,
I also dont think the media has programmed us in the way you suggest, as i have a brother 1 year older, who has always watched tv more than i have especially in the last 10 years, and he has always been more confident with the girls, he's not really a porn man either, not that we share that much intamacy...
And you'd be shocked at the amount of woman who like watching porn.
Its a values shift that will make the RBE work, no one really knows for sure how and when its going to happen. But where would there be a need for people to make money from porn, since all would be free anyway. There would be no incentive for the industry to continue.
I'm afraid dude, the reason you are single is due to your enviroment and how you interacted with people as you grew up. Much the same as me, and it gets no easier, i'm 38 this year....lol..
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Hah, funny topic - no I don't think RBE will solve such a problem in the way you suggest - people won't be running around having sex with each other all over the place or anything like that. However your problem is likely caused by your own perceptions of yourself - if you believe you can't pull or you can't attract a nice girlfriend then you will make it a self-fulfilling prophecy and subconsciously act in a way that makes it true.
Where an RBE will help is that people simply won't feel this way due to money pressures, perceived status, corporations constantly telling us we're not good enough unless we buy their products, etc. (seriously - this is worse for women, the next time you see a female beauty product advert on TV watch what's going on - and the message is clear: you are ugly, you are disgusting, you are worthless - buy our product because it helps drag you out of your crappy worthless life and make you a better person that people will actually want to know).
For you now, in this current society, I'd suggest to stop watching at porn because it's just an excuse for not going out and getting it for real - you actually could if you tried, but every time you get it the fake way it just re-enforces your belief that you can't get it any other way. You've found a way that works and you don't want to challenge it. I've an idea - use the scientific method to try and pull - create some experiments of what to say and make some predictions on what will work best, then go out and test them. That way you simply cannot lose - every time you do it you will be a winner, if your theory didn't work you'll learn something (win!), and if it does... well (win!) Also - with this idea of it being an "experiment" you might not be so nervous/scared to approach and talk to women
Strange this thread, because after years of assessing the available options, I've decided to go with the "free love" approach. Just because its simple, you can spend time with whoever you want to, there's no need to "own" your partner, so you can both do whatever you like any of the time, and I believe the need for commitment is based on a fear of being alone - as soon as that (irrational?) fear has gone, its easy to go out and find someone, because you dont "need" to do it, its just something you want.....
Also interesting is the word "free", in this example, and in the dictionary!! x
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This raises an interesting question on the issue of marriage as well. Since marriage is a legal contract and in a RBE there will be no laws (or property to divide up in a divorce) how would people get "married"?
Of course self esteem is a key issue you have raised but I would say this is almost entirely a consequence of the monetary system and the stuff the media tell us we need (and our ability to purchase it). In a RBE economy there would be no point going into a bar and bragging about your convertible mercedes to someone you're chatting up when anyone can get one on demand. Just think about mobile phones - only posers were seen with them in bars 15 years ago, now everyone has one.
> I find myself and probably a lot of other men suffer from sex scarcity
I would recommend online dating sites, ones such as http://uk.match.com for example, as I met my belovered online some ten years ago.
I would also recommend your own house, car, athletic body and a job paying more than £50k a year..
> would this create an abundance of real sex so we wouldNt need porn!
> What you reckon?
I reckon it will mean a shortage myself, as women will not need a man to provide for them.
Android lover replacements as such I reckon will be big business to speak.
> as soon as that (irrational?) fear has gone
Lets not forget 'love', not something you can wish away easily if you 'suffer' from it..
> In a RBE economy there would be no point going into a bar and bragging about your
> convertible mercedes to someone you're chatting up when anyone can get one on
> demand.
Indeed.
Instead, men will have to buff up and compete using the only thing you cannot get off the shelf, their own body, and skills.
So you look like a body builder, can speak a dozen different languages, horse ride, play the piano, and know your way around the bedroom, then you can get the girl.